In the meantime, we’re just enjoying ourselves, and our marriage feels stronger than ever. I would never leave Ray or my beautiful daughters for another man or woman. I don’t know what came over me, but I replied: “Why wait until we’re older?” Ray just stared at me, open-mouthed. You don’t have to sleep with every couple you meet,” she told me. “You have to be selective and become friends first.” Why wait? ... Ali and husband Ray (not pictured) joined the swingers’ scene soon after the birth of their second daughter. Picture: YouTube/OpenMinded.com

It’s a great place to find a younger partner or someone you just never would date as a couple in your everyday life. Many couples really DON’T want to stay friends with a sexy younger couple or single person after the fact. That’s why this swinger lifestyle-friendly app makes it easy with anonymous messaging, easy swiping, and free texting. This is a nice way to reach out to the local and nationwide swinging community, which actually has many retired and senior couples to meet. We connected on so many levels and the sex was incredible. They eventually became our best friends, and we’d meet them for family barbecues, even their kids’ baptisms. The swinging community in the tri-state area (New Jersey, New York and Connecticut) is a small pool, so, when I heard about OpenMinded.com, I instantly posted our profile on it. It’s exciting to see new faces, and it seems to cater to younger, attractive people.With other 3 million members and in over 50 countries, SDC is the most well-known swingers community online. It all started in the summer of 2008, soon after the birth of our second daughter and [when] I was in the throes of post-partum depression.

Turn-on ... although Ali’s first experience of swinging ‘wasn’t great’, she says she and Ray (not pictured) got a new perspective on each other. Picture: YouTube/OpenMinded.com While not everyone in the swinger lifestyle approves of threesomes, since they are always “one short”, many swingers are OK with an occasional third party joining the fun. You also have to be discerning — someone can look like a Victoria’s Secret model but still be an a-hole. Someone might not be a model, but their personality goes a long way. However, that doesn’t mean Alt.com is only for the young and restless. In fact, a high number of users are over the age of 50. Of course, we both have to be physically attracted to each partner, too. And we always use condoms when we have sex.Feeld is actually made for threesome and swinger dating and you can tell from its cool features. Couples can join Feeld and then link their profiles together. You can also choose some of your favorite kinks upfront and have them listed on your profile – great way to break the ice!

Ray, 43, a graphic artist, says: “I was pleasantly surprised when Ali suggested we get involved in swinging. Since then, we’ve both learned to not get emotionally involved with the other couple, and that way the opportunities for jealousy ease up.

Regular people with regular problems ... Ali (not pictured) says the polyamorous lifestyle is an escape. Picture: YouTube/OpenMinded.com If you’re new to the swinger lifestyle or just want to meet more friends for your restless travels, have we got a list for you. SDC is a close-knit community and resource for swingers’ clubs, swingers’ events, and swinger parties. In all, we’ve slept with about six different couples. Our criteria include being educated and being able to hold a good conversation.

After that, we saw the same couple as friends, but we didn’t take things into the bedroom again. The real breakthrough came about three months later when we met a couple — an obstetric nurse and an IT manager in their late 30s.It’s actually a great place to meet poly people, swinger couples, and many users over the age of 50. Ray and I have been happily married for 15 years, but we’re polyamorous — meaning that we actively welcome like-minded couples into our bed. We truly believe it has made our relationship stronger. To my surprise, I had the time of my life. In the past, I’d have been jealous about Ray looking at these gorgeous, fit girls, but this time, I wasn’t concerned at all.