It will tell you the warning signals and red flags you need to pay attention to in your own friendships and in your partner's. Glass reveals that the disclosure of infidelity is a traumatic event that can reverberate for months -- even years. Of course, if there are no feelings involved or if the unfaithful partner can move on quickly, it’s much better. Shirley Glass says that the increase in modern affairs happens because of the increased opportunities for men and women to mingle.

In the new crisis of infidelity, more and more marriages are being threatened by friendships that have slowly and insidiously turned into love affairs. To be healthy, every relationship needs this safety code: the appropriate placement of walls and windows. In addition, she has learned about the trauma of infidelity from the couples she has treated in her private practice in the Baltimore area. There’s really not much to this other than a lot of get-togethers while two alleged adults fret about what their brother, parents, and friends will think.

I very much appreciate having a colleague who has worked to develop a specialty in treating relationship problems and believe her expertise in this area greatly benefits her clients.

People who have just found out about a partner's affair may react as if they have been viciously attacked.Shirley Glass book brilliant at helping to understand why even in a strong relationship things can go astray. Monogamy might be a goal or an ideal to strive for, but within long term relationships it is usually not the reality. Every time my work on infidelity has been featured in the media, I have received an outpouring from desperate people who say that I've helped them survive their partner's betrayal, rebuild their marriage, and get on with their lives.

In a love affair, the unfaithful partner has built a wall to shut out the marriage partner and has opened a window to let in the affair partner. I hope that their stories of breakdowns and breakthroughs will show you that you are not alone and encourage you in your attempt to recover from infidelity.I will provide you with plenty of substantiated information that will help you make decisions about whether and how your marriage can be saved. Albeit completely eliminating the chances of cheating is impossible, you can take many effective steps to make it less likely. The involved spouse dismantles the structure that kept the injured spouse outside in the cold and replaces deceit with hope. i dont think it can ever be your fault haunted - i was truely horrible to my dh in the run up to his affair but the actual decision to have the affair was his and his alone.

The book does a good job explaining our current feelings and addressing the issues we are both dealing with right now, but it can't give us the answers as to what is the right thing for us to do. i said its not that at all its just that when 'the shadows' come into my mind that really helps to push them out again. Today's affairs are more frequent and more serious than they used to be because more men are getting emotionally involved and more women are getting sexually involved.It’s important for quicker healing that the partners “bite their tongue” and are not too mean when they discover the affair. My clients are living evidence of its effectiveness in their individual healing and in the number of marriages saved with this approach. After conscious, patient work, you can become strong enough to deal with the hundreds of difficult questions that keep coming up: Will my partner ever forgive me? More than 90 percent of married individuals believe that monogamy is important, but almost half of them admit to having had affairs. Despite completely disrespecting the institution of marriage and monogamy from a historical, sociological, political, and psychological lens, I still hated how my trauma and my values would mix together to lead me to engage in actio