Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: Because Good Guys Make the Best Lovers

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To help you access the most important sex tips and advice, we've gathered together our favourite, most helpful, most surprising and least intimidating articles on all things sex, to create a bumper guide to having the best sex of your life.

Another way to explore this problem of disconnect is for the man to take the 30-day challenge where he does not ejaculate. During penetrative sex, he slows down, focusing on how the woman responds. Your partner will gain a better understanding of what creates greater levels of arousal.”

Research suggests that better communication is key to better sex—and no, we don't necessarily mean dirty talk. Communicating what you like and don't like can be instructional and informative, no matter how much you think you already know each other's bodies. If they're doing something you like, say so rather than relying onambiguous gestures or noises. And if it's something you're not into, communicate that or guide them in a new direction. Want to try a different angle? Suggest one. If simultaneous orgasm is your goal and you're close to climaxing, don't be mum about it. 2. Give Them a Confidence Boost In fact, we have over one hundred articles on how to get your game on between the sheets to ensure you — and your partner(s) — are having the best time possible. Martin, C.K. et al. “Effect of Calorie Restriction on Mood, Quality of Life, Sleep, and Sexual Function in Healthy Non-obese Adults: The CALERIE 2 Randomized Clinical Trial,” JAMA Internal Medicine (2016) 176:743. And Cosmopolitan, in partnership with Men’s Health, has partnered with UK schools to improve sex ed offerings.

Before you put anything inside a vagina, it's important that you're fully, properly aroused. When you're aroused, the vagina expands and gets wet while the genital tissue becomes engorged with blood. This helps intercourse and penetration feel good rather than painful or uncomfortable. Be sure you're giving adequate time and attention to the clitoris. If possible, have an orgasm before penetration. Women and female-bodied people have orgasms most reliably through oral sex or with a sex toy. Make your pleasure a priority. 7. Expand Your Vocabulary Role play? Bondage? Outdoors? This is the fetish you should try during sex, according to your star sign Problem: STIs I guess we’re all on a journey. Some are ahead of me, and are annoyed that it took me so long, and think I still have further to go. To them I’d just say, thank you for your patience. Please believe me that I’m trying to do this well. Oral stimulation is a pivotal part of sex for many of us, particularly for women who are more likely to orgasm through oral stimulation versus penetrative stimulation. In fact, a recent survey showed that only 60% of us usually achieve orgasm during intercourse.Budweiser, S. et al. “Sleep Apnea is an Independent Correlate of Erectile and Sexual Dysfunction,” Journal of Sexual Medicine (2009) 6:3147. It still would score really highly on our rubric–and unlike the other 13 books we looked at, my original did include the word consent! (Well, technically it was the word “consensual”, but I would have counted that). And it did win a huge prize in 2012 for the best Christian book by a Canadian. But it was time to update it.

We’re busy behind the scenes trying to move this blog to a new domain. We’re going to take about 1200 posts with us, and then delete the rest. Our blog is so clunky and about to break that there’s not an easy way to do this, so we figured it would be better to start from scratch and do things right. Hopefully that will be ready soon. Wondering how to be better in bed? While there is no one definition of what “ good sex” looks like, there are a number of tips that may improve the enjoyment of your sex life. When men do talk, they often puff themselves up to their peers. Less apt than women to discuss their insecurities and more inclined to exaggerate their exploits, men paint distorted pictures of their sex lives for one another. DellaCamera, P.A. et al. “Sexual Health, Adherence to Mediterranean Diet, Body Weight, Physical Activity and Mental State: Factors Correlated to Each Other,” Urologia (2017) epub ahead of print. Communicate. Talk to your partner, or to a friend or counselor, about your issues, whether they're physical or emotional. Explain the anxieties you are feeling, ask for and accept reassurance, and continue the conversation as things come up.Sex can be a powerful emotional experience and a great tool for protecting or improving health, and it’s certainly not only for the young. The need for intimacy is ageless. And studies now confirm that no matter what your gender, you can enjoy sex for as long as you wish. Naturally, sex at 70 or 80 may not be like it is at 20 or 30—but in some ways, it can be better. Great sex is in the eye of the beholder, or the be-hander,” says Patti Britton, a clinical sexologist and author of The Art of Sex Coaching. “For some men, it might be the ability to produce fantabulous multiple orgasms in their partner. For other men, it might mean being able to last three minutes. Being a great lover means becoming a great lover to your particular partner, and that requires doing something very difficult: opening your mouth.” Keep in mind that it's not all about intercourse or recreating the way things were when you were younger. The key to a great sex life is finding out what works for you now. Sex as you age may call for some creativity. Use the following ideas as inspiration, but don't be afraid to come up with your own.

Lovehoney's sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight discusses how to ensure that your sexual happiness is the main priority for you and your partner. She shares her 7 most underrated, but essential, sex tips which may seem obvious, but are the key to getting the basics right. Sex is about so much more than just PIV (great to know when physical health issues mean that can’t happen very often) And the wedding night focus should be on intimacy, not on intercourse. I wanted a book that didn’t put expectations on her, but instead valued her and allowed her to explore her sexuality the way she felt comfortable. The fall in hormone levels for men and women once they pass 50 can result in a natural decline in sex drive. But other emotional and health factors can also play a big part.Lube is one of the best secret weapons for female orgasm. It helps you feel more sensation from touch, and a dab of lube on your clitoris makes it easier for you to have an orgasm during intercourse, by helping your partner’s body glide against yours. You can use organic coconut oil, but keep in mind oil can break down condoms, so this only works for couples using a different form of protection.” When over-50s magazine Saga surveyed their readers about their changing sex lives, most (around 85%) admitted they made love less frequently now than they did in their 20s and 30s. But don’t despair – the research also revealed older couples weren’t skipping sex completely. Almost half of those questioned said they did still manage sex at least once a week. You might not be as comfortable with some sexual positions as you once were, but that doesn't mean you need to give up an activity that is pleasurable for you—and miss out on feeling close to your partner. For creatures so famously consumed by thoughts of sex, men remain remarkably confused about what great sex is and how to have it. We’re shadowed by self-doubt, and clouded by myths and misperceptions. It’s not just about our mind-set. We men could also work on our mechanics. Mentally and physically, we’re hampered, hindered. We’re impeded on our path to greater sexual pleasure.