Shots Spreader Bar with Cuffs

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All you really need to be able to bring bondage to the bedroom is a simple handcuff-style tie, Syonda says. "This is called a 'double column' tie—two loops around two 'columns' (usually two limbs) that doesn’t collapse or self tighten." But this one can easily double as a sex pillow since it has a nice padded cushion. And the cover is removable and washing machine friendly.

If your spreader bar uses real leather, be very careful to clean it with a damp cloth using a mix of half water and half white vinegar. Don’t get it completely wet, as this can damage the leather. For this position, attach the cuffs to the wrist and then add the spreader bar between them if it isn’t already attached. The arms should be in front of the body when the spreader bar is put in place. Then lift the sub’s arms and hook the spreader bar to the ceiling or any other higher point you have in mind. The sub should be able to kneel when the spreader bar is hooked in place. Don't forget about testing the suspension point as well. If the hook in the ceiling is rated for a potted plant - and you put a human being on it, it's likely to come down - and on top of the bound person's head (seriously, that's no fun). Ensure that any bondage point you use is correctly installed - and if you plan on doing bondage like this often, consider hiring a professional and tell them you need it for a "floating egg chair". The bar itself is made from a heavy-weight metal that is so well made that it won’t budge no matter how hard you try.

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Cheap adjustable spreader bars often won’t hold together securely. Allowing the partner to escape… and where’s the fun in there? Looking to find the best spreader bar? Take a look at this Round-Up review of the Best Spreader Bars we’ve tested at Bedbible. Best Spreader Bar Positions in a Nutshell If the idea of being restrained like this has awakened the kink queen inside you, and you wanna step things up from using Fifty Shades-inspired sex toys, leg spreader bars might be the new thing for you to work into your bedtime routine… Let’s look at what they are and how to use a spreader bar. What are spreader bars? Spreaders are a bondage tool made up of a rigid metal bar with ankle cuff attachments on either end. They prevent the person wearing them from being able to close their legs, leaving them exposed and open to whatever fun torments you both have in mind. How Do You Use One of These? For this position, secure cuffs to the ankles and wrists. Then use a spreader bar between the ankles and another one between the wrists. If you have adjustable spreader bars, you can use the lowest spread setting to reduce some of the strain on the sub, increasing their comfort while still maintaining the bound position.

A spreader bar is a popular sex toy or tool used in kink and BDSM play. Now before you scream at the screen, spreader bars can absolutely be used by anyone wanting to add exciting new dimensions to their sex lives. Now, what makes this basic position so nice, is that you can transition into many of the leg-only spreader bar positions above. Plus, it’s the perfect position for some solo, me time with a battery-operated lover. That is just one of the reasons that a safe word is so important. It allows you to break the role and let your partner know that you want to stop immediately.

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By suspending the spreader bar from any sturdy overhead point, you instantly have a simple way to restrain the wrists above the head. Not only can this feel very vulnerable since it leaves the entire body on display (with no way to "cover up". Since limbs are mostly out of the way, almost all sex activities can be done during the Vertical X Position - which is part of why it has such a large following in kink communities.

Gags, cages, dildos, and anything else you like can be added to your BDSM sessions and role-playing games to increase the intensity and stimulation. Best Spreader Bar Positions Almost everyone will recognize the Basic Y position as the first position they tried with their spreader bar. It's easy, it's comfortable, and it's a great way to really see what wearing a spreader bar feels like. (For a lot of people, this spreader bar sex position is also really great for self-bondage. Most people can reach their ankles to attach a spreader bar while solo.) Take that "Advanced X Position" - and flip it upside down so the person is on their hands and knees. Not only does this leave the entire butt available, but it also grants easier access to everything fun between the thighs.As long as you’re in an environment that welcomes it, like a sex party or kink club, there’s no reason you can’t use a spreader bar in public. A leg spreader bar is a type of sex toy designed to keep the legs parted, with a rigid central bar and ankle cuff at each end. (See our favorite spreader bar for beginners here). How do you use a spreader bar? Spreader bars can be used during bondage play as a form of restraint, but also double as a position enhancer. Most spreader bars are designed to be attached at the ankles and spread the wearer’s legs from the bottom, but thigh spreader bars are designed to be worn higher up on the legs and spread between the thighs. Some (like this one) even have wrist cuffs to keep the wearer in a fingers-to-toes sort of position. Have you seen a spreader bar? Exactly what it sounds like, a "spreader bar" is a metal bar that goes between limbs to "spread" them apart. This bondage tool either has cuffs "built-in" or attachment points where you can clip in your own restraints. Not only does it spread the limbs apart, though, the bar stays between the limbs - which means that the limbs can't be closed once the spreader bar is inserted. The leapfrog position is similar to the standing dog position in the way the sub is bound, though they end up on their knees instead of trying to stay balanced on their feet while you play with them. For this position, secure the cuffs to the wrists and ankles. Have the sub kneel, then attach the spreader bar to the ankle cuffs. Before you begin, it’s best to have a discussion with your partner about using one of these items. Open communication about what you are both interested in getting out of the experience is necessary to ensure everyone is comfortable with adding this type of bondage bar to your gear. Any boundaries and rules should be discussed before you begin.

Generally speaking, they are made of a solid rod that is usually carbon fiber, metal, or wood and are covered with a softer material such as PU leather, nylon or leather if the rod is abrasive to the skin. Metal spreader bars are the most popular due to their durability. Some of them are a fixed length while others are adjustable and can range in length between 12 inches to 36 inches. On each end are ankle cuffs so that you can attach them to your submissive's ankles and keep their legs from closing during intense orgasms. The cuffs are sometimes built into the bar. When they're not, you can customize and use your own. Most cuffs are made of Velcro, PU leather, or leather. To do the Standing Four Points, One Bar Position, have the bound person stand with their ankles spread apart. For the most sturdy starting point, an adjustable spreader bar will allow you to adjust the spreader bar to your partner's most comfortable, usual standing stance. Once the ankles are bound into the spreader bar, the person bends over to reach their wrists down - and the wrists can be bound into the spreader bar as well. Go with something made for bondage like this Leather Bond Padded Cuff Set or for something softer, this VP Leather Cuff Set with faux Chinchilla fur.

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Metal tends to be the material of choice since it’s very rigid and adds a real element to the sense of helplessness the restrained person might feel. That said, metal can be a little harsh and might hurt if the cuffs are also made of metal. Being restrained doesn't have to take place in a 50 Shades-esque sex dungeon; it can also be a very light and playful experience. “Even if you're not someone who considers themselves particularly kinky or into BDSM, restraint can still be erotic to dabble in,” says Taylor Sparks, an erotic educator and founder of Organic Loven. “Especially nowadays, it's an incredible release and relief to pass off control for a little bit, and a simple restraint can turn your mind off like a switch." Whether you’re new to the use of spreader bars or have gained some experience with these BDSM devices, you may be looking for some new and interesting positions to try out. The following spreader bar positions are the best options we’ve found, with something for every taste and experience level. Vertical bar So what are the best ways to use bondage during sex? If you’re someone who’s curious about bondage sex positions, you might have come across Shibari, a contemporary form of rope bondage that originated in Japan. (Sometimes, it’s also called Kinbaku or Japanese bondage.) When you’re first trying out a spreader bar, you may want to get used to this toy on its own before adding other toys and gear to the mix. Of course, once you get the hang of this device, adding other gear can make the experience that much more enjoyable for you and your partner.