Speak Your Truth: The Sunday Times top ten bestseller

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Relentless Inner Critic: A voice trained to live in a dark cave has a strong inner critic to keep it there. You learned to judge yourself relentlessly, and to be cautious, and now your inner critic cautions you at every turn. It questions your natural inclinations, your spontaneity; and it ensures that you don’t stand out, and judges you when you do. Courageously Speak Your Truth: I have written extensively on different ways to express yourself. Instead of repeating myself here, I encourage you to peruse my Communications category on my Blog where you will find a number of tools to support you. Two specific articles that may help are: 15 Ways to Say No and 15 Ways to Express Needs and Desires. When you’re living, owning, and speaking your truth, sure some uncomfortable feelings come up, but for the most part you’re living with: This can be for many reasons. Perhaps from an early age, you were told to keep your opinions to yourself. Maybe you even got in trouble for speaking up. Perhaps your parents assigned to the belief that children should be “seen and not heard”. The impact of this experience as a child can manifest in many ways in our lives as an adult. Some examples may be, a deep fear of conflict, being overly agreeable, or devaluing your own personal perspectives in relation to others.

I blog frequently and I truly thank you for your information. This article has really peaked my interest.Your connection with your truth helps you set unshakable boundaries. It helps life be in less of a limbo state, status-quo state, or as I like to say, a “sleep-walking” state. Your boundaries help you wake up in situations that seem off. Knowing your boundaries is incredible for decision-making, for all individuals and certainly for leaders. When you are so in-tune with your values and truth, you will struggle less to compromise to things, people, or situations that do not serve you or align with your highest and best good. Of course, the most important person to speak truth to is yourself, with inner speech. Come to peace with the truth: the facts, your experiences and intentions, the goodness inside your heart, what's led to what for better or worse. Oprah Winfrey has made a career out of compassionate listening; indeed, encouraging a guest to deliver “your truth” is her trademark. In a recent interview, for example, Winfrey invited Meghan Markle to do so, and Markle delivered two hours of fireworks about her truth of life in the British royal family. In a world surrounded by distractions, it’s easy to harden your heart and forget everything you feel. When you speak your truth, you open your heart with your honesty, transparency, and vulnerability. It’s one of the ways to give your heart to others and remind them that the world isn’t always too harsh and cold. I was never a very good communicator when I was younger. I was a shy child and I remember feeling things more deeply than I remember being confident about what I was trying to articulate. I was much better at being expressive through music, dance or letting films transport me to another world. But talking? Saying what I really thought? That was never something that came easily for me. I would prefer to sit on the side-lines for fear of offending someone or looking stupid, but for the most part, I just didn’t think my opinion was valid.

There are a lot of things I want. I want a new blender. I want to enjoy my own company more. I want more friends. I want to make six figures. I want to spend less time working—on my business and on myself—and more time having fun. Speaking your truth comes from knowing who you are, from self-knowledge, and knowing your purpose in life. Your purpose is something you do. It’s something you are called to become. And, as with many things in life, achieving your purpose can sometimes take a lifetime of practice. I would leave conflicts wishing I’d spoken up for myself; leave social settings feeling totally drained; over-commit to obligations and under-commit to activities that brought me joy; agree to be intimate with people, only to later regret my decision; and give more than I received in the majority of my relationships. But she’s upbeat about it. Being replaced on a major show earlier this year without even an explanation stung, but she’s able to laugh it off. She’s content in this new life, happy to focus on bringing positivity to her audiences. She’s no longer giving the uncomfortable act. In many ways, she has turned to her Happy Place, and that suits her just fine. I found learning to speak from my heart a difficult art to master, because there’s no doubt in this world that the truth can be scary and not everyone always wants to hear it, especially when it involves a painful conversation. However, when the alternative is to endure a situation you’re not happy with, speak from a place of fear, or lie, all of which will leave you mentally and emotionally exhausted, speaking from your place of truth suddenly seems a brighter option doesn’t it?

It's been said that the most powerful tool for physical health is a fork (or spoon), since the choices you make with it determine the good or bad things you put into your body. This isn’t so different from the far-right side of the U.S. political spectrum, where thousands of people support an “alternative fact” that former U.S. President Donald Trump won the 2020 presidential election. And as the world saw on Jan. 6, when pro-Trump rioters overtook the U.S. Capitol, the difference between “alternative facts” and “real facts” matters a great deal.

Our duty as leaders and as individuals is to express our truth, listen, and reflect. We cannot force our truth and values on others—it just doesn’t work that way.

Vince – I want to say Thank You. I am 53 years old. I have lived my life as a people pleaser. And I have found one thing out. ( I AM NOT PLEASED ). I have found throughout my life, that the more I gave, the more I did. I lost these very same people when I no longer gave. I believe that this woke me up after almost 50+ years. I was angry, I am angry. I am married and I am not able to share my thoughts or feelings without being told my thoughts and feelings are not valid. I have had many health issues ,and it has been ongoing,so I understand my husband frustration , as he says ,it is all about me,and that I have every illness in the world. And he still does not support me. Any time I initiate any conversation to share how I feel I am immediately left walking out of the room as I feel like I am not being heard,or my thoughts he has heard forever,funny thing if he has heard . I would never know it , as when I cry it is alone, when I ask for anything from him he is always acting so inconvienced. I feel like such a burden. I recently also started standing up against people that I find are not showing me respect especiallly when I try to do my best. And am doing counselling to work through my childhood and adult memories. Which really I have been struggling. I do not know where I belong. And feel like such a burden. Thanks for listening. More Freedom - To be yourself and that you can naturally attract the right people and stop trying to be something you’re not. Get in the habit of honoring your preferences, even if they’re seemingly inconsequential. After all, today it’s what to watch on Netflix, but a year from now, it might be what city to move to, or whether or not to have a second kid, or what to do with your lottery winnings. 6. Tell someone you care for that you care for them. No one wants to have a friend, companion, child, sibling or parent that lives in a world of lies. Think about whom you call your best friend, how often are they honest with you? If it’s often, that’s why you love and value them. Seek out a lifestyle full of 100% honesty, and watch how many people begin to value you.