Mother Hunger: How Adult Daughters Can Understand and Heal from Lost Nurturance, Protection, and Guidance

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This could be the first time a corporation would be held criminally liable for forced labor in their own supply chains,” according to a retired special agent we talked to. An insatiable need for sex and love. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable and painful relationships. One concern that researchers have with projects that repurpose food is that they require additional resources, like transportation and electricity. “Rescuing [food] still comes at a cost,” said Kathryn Bender, a professor and food waste researcher at the University of Delaware.

In my work as a certified elementary teacher and now an LMHC trauma attachment therapist. I specialize in Trauma, Grief, Loss, Motherless Daughters, Parentless Parents, and Sudden Instant Loss. The fridges also embody a straightforward solution to climate change. Each year, tens of billions of pounds of food, more than a thirdof what’s produced in the U.S., get tossed into trash bins. Most of those scraps end up in landfills, where they decompose and release methane, a powerful heat-trapping gas. The sheer quantity of the country’s combined waste makes it a major source of climate pollution: Food waste accounts for as much as 10 percentof global greenhouse gas emissions. And more food is being thrown out than ever. If you can, please support the reporting you get from Mother Jones—that exists to make a difference, not a profit—with a donation of any amount today. We need more donations than normal to come in from this specific blurb to help close our funding gap before it gets any bigger. DonateKelly McDaniel has eloquently described the various forms of neglect that can shape our experiences in life and continue to impact us as adult women. In her writing, Kelly explains that it is not about blaming our caregiver, they may have been victims of neglect themselves or had other unmanageable circumstances like an abusive partner. Instead, she helps to shed light on how mother-daughter relationships can become complex when nurturing, guidance and protection are absent. In Chicago, an artist named Eric Von Haynes co-founded a fridge network called The Love Fridge in 2020. Today, he helps oversee more than 20 love fridges, each decorated with eye-popping colors and phrases like “Free food for all!” According to Von Haynes, the fridges are filled, cleaned, and maintained by hundreds of volunteers. He estimates that thousands of pounds of food move through them each month. Trauma counsellor Kelly McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behaviour by taking a hard look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact. An endless ache to love and be loved. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable moods and painful relationships. In her book “Mother Hunger,” Kelly McDaniel explores the consequences of growing up in a dysfunctional family system. She describes three crucial necessities to raise an emotionally healthy child: nurturing, protection, and guidance. Were you NURTURED?

It just blossomed into way more than I ever could have expected,” said Zauderer, who now works full-time at Grassroots Grocery, a food-distribution nonprofit he co-founded in New York. The fridges also offer a degree of anonymity for those in need that’s hard to find at more traditional food distribution centers, like food pantries. People don’t have to sign up or prove their eligibility to use them. “The whole point is dignified, anonymous access,” Zauderer said. “We’re not the arbiters of how much to take.” “Think about a half-eaten burger. That’s a no-go. But this is very rare. Most people bring good leftovers.” If you can, please support the reporting you get from Mother Jones—that exists to make a difference, not a profit—with a donation of any amount today. We need more donations than normal to come in from this specific blurb to help close our funding gap before it gets any bigger. Donate WHO DOESN’T LOVE A POSITIVE STORY—OR TWO? Your mom may have remained consistently disconnected, or too preoccupied to read a book to help you fall asleep at night or failed to comfort you, especially when you were hurting. She may have ignored your feelings and wanted you to be there for her instead, as in caring for her pain and soothing her worn nerves. A caregiver who was not at all interested in you as a unique person, with gifts, talents, and treasures. Your mom may have had an addiction or mental or physical illness that superseded her ability to care for you. You may have had a sibling who was chronically ill that required more time and energy from your mom with nothing left to give to the rest of the family.

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A fridge in Austin, Texas, once went missing. It had been “borrowed” by someone who wanted to keep beers cold for an event at South by Southwest, according to Kellie Stiewert, an organizer at the ATX Free Fridge project. But such shenanigans are rare. That the fridges can be placed with a property owner’s permission just about anywhere—in front of a taqueria, a person’s home, an office building—is what makes the concept “beautiful,” Stiewert said. And it is only because Mother Jones is funded primarily by donations from readers that we can mount ambitious, yearlong— or more—investigations like these two stories that are making waves. Even a fridge that draws electricity from a coal-powered grid uses less energy each day than a single cell phone, said Dawn King, who researches food waste and policy at Brown University. “Is it worth using greenhouse gas emissions to plug in a refrigerator so people can eat food that otherwise would have gotten wasted? Hell yes it is.” But community fridges are about as low-key and energy efficient as solutions get. Zauderer didn’t burn any fossil fuels to walk his pizza to the fridge near his apartment. And the Love Fridge, which acquires only used refrigerators, powers two of them with solar panels—a vision that Von Haynes has for more to come.

It’s not just Zauderer’s project that has blossomed. Community fridges first cropped up a decade ago in a few isolated spots around the globe, then spread across the United States right after the pandemic started in 2020, when supply chains were crumbling, food prices were rising, and families across the country were strugglingto find meals. At the time, the fridges were viewed as a creative response to an urgent need. But when the pandemic subsided, it became clear that the refrigerators —sometimes called freedges, friendly fridges, and love fridges— were more than a fad. Today, nonprofits and mutual aid groups are overseeing hundreds of fridges that bolster access to food in cities from Miami to Anchorage, Alaska. Trauma counselor Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviors-and are unable to stop. This story was originally published by Grist andis reproduced here as part of the Climate Desk collaboration. Sound familiar? Trauma psychotherapist Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviours - and are unable to stop.Think about a half-eaten burger. That’s a no-go,” said Oehninger. “But this is very rare. Most people bring good leftovers.” Like Zauderer’s pizza.