Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

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If taken to it's logical conclusion her methods could lead devotees towards a existential crisis from which one might never recover.

So when someone like Eckhart Tolle wakes up one morning as a changed man, it’s not because he’s crazy. For those, that do have the above abilities, and consider themselves extremely in touch with themselves. Psychologist and biologist Enrique Burunat says, "Love is a physiological motivation such as hunger, thirst, sleep, and sex drive. For example, he found that participants who rated high on the love scale also spent a great deal more time gazing into each other's eyes as compared to those who rated only as weakly in love. In this revised edition, readers will enjoy seven new dialogues, real examples of Katie doing The Work with people to discover the root cause of their suffering.

But often this only means the demands of life have made it necessary to plan time with your partner. Whereas, what Katie seems to be suggesting is a judgment of the judgment and trying to resolve it by the mere realization that it seems to be causing us stress or may not be true from another perspective. She claims things like "there's no such thing as verbal abuse" and asks questions like "can you absolutely be sure that your dad doesn't love you? So we can move on to other people and strategies without blaming them, though we allow ourselves, compassionately, to feel disappointed, and take that disappointment as our soul's wisdom that we do need to move on and set that boundary perhaps.

Until you see everything in the world as a friend,” Katie says — this includes fatal diagnoses as well as poor drivers in traffic — “your work is not done.

I’ve also added Loving What Is by Byron Katie to my collection of Philosopher’s Notes--distilling the Big Ideas into 6-page PDF and 20-minute MP3s on 600+ of the BEST self-development books ever. In the first rush of being in love, you might feel completely dedicated to your partner, ready to do anything and everything to help them through a tough spot or even just make their lives a little easier. There's so much more to life, and people and their problems, and their stories, and their thinking and their feelings than Byron Katie acknowledges. To tell a victim that they need to admit they are guilty of some part of the abuse is incomprehensible to me.

If it makes no sense, or is difficult to grasp in book form, try watching a video of Byron Katie working with someone (tons of videos on youtube) or at least visit the concept again in 6-7 years. Suddenly, the sheriff and his deputies crash through your bedroom door with pistols drawn and flashlights blinding you. The 38 year old wife, who’s depressed because her marriage feels broken, the 54 year old lawyer, who’s very disappointed withhis collaboration partners, and anyone who curses when they see it’s raining outside. In the same way, once you understand, through inquiry, that an untrue thought causes suffering, you move away from it.

This is where you turn a problem around and see if the problem is actually your fault or just in your head.